Yet those who wait for the LORD Will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary. Isaiah 40:31
Hey y’all!!! I hope and pray you’re well and that you’re having an amazing day. This particular topic for today is on my heart to share. I am happily single (depending on the day smh, I have my moments but thank God they are much less frequent), but I try to focus on enjoying those that God has allowed in my space in this season. Yet, a little while ago today, and well honestly this week, I have been getting perspective adjustments. Today’s adjustment focused on the area of dating as a single Christian woman. I’ve read countless books, especially when getting married was all that consumed my thoughts. I asked God about every guy I seriously dated. God had to check me while I was in New Orleans and told me to remain single…so several dating faux pas later, I got the message loud and clear. I had a summer hiccup but ever since, I have finally taken 1 Corinthians 7 to heart. Today it got some fine-tuning.
I share with you a post from Prophetess Tera Carissa that she wrote for Guideposts.
Here are the insights that God has given me today. I realized that I am on my way to thriving in the things that I was born to do, but I have not fully arrived yet…so at this time, marriage is not a concern of mine. When it is time, it will happen. I dare not say I do not wonder when it will happen and who it will be. But I realized today how much I still have to do and I still want to do…and being married or having children any time soon for that matter will probably be a great hindrance to getting them done. I recently had a "Come to Jesus" moment with myself about my ambitions and desires, because I wasn’t sure if I was getting in God’s way with my pursuits. I know that God can and will give me grace for doing all of those things–whether single or married–in that time, but I am going to focus on today. I do not want to leave life with regrets, and there are still a great many things I want to do before I have children. So after reading this today, I was definitely solidified in my plan to move forward.
As I read this post, it gave me comfort to jump feet first into dream chasing. You will not find this explicitly in the Bible, but I have prayed about it a great deal and I think it is essential to loving others as yourself. After God, you have to put you first, love you first, and in doing that, you have to learn to prioritize. It is okay to serve others and want to do things for others, but if you don’t have God’s plans for you on the top of the stack, then you will never be fulfilled. Matthew 6:33 tells us "Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you." By chasing the dreams God gave me, and pursuing the desires He has put in my heart, I love me so that I can properly love all of you. So I shall wait, and wait in style and grace as I go forward with the next big moves in my life.
I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please him. 1 Corinthians 7:32