A man that has friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24 KJV2000
You may feel this is not relevant, but of course I do lol. We all pray for things; we all have things we want and long for. Some of you desire marriage, friendships, or other things in the form of people to satisfy some need. I learned this the hard way.
I prayed that God would send me a friend back in 2009. And I received the word back many times that in order to have friends, you must first be a friend. What this meant I would learn over many years, and today it was crystallized in my mind how difficult that process has been, but how the end result was great. Over the last 3-4 years, a number of people have come in and out of my life to be my ‘friend’ and some have definitely not made the cut. But there have been a select few of these relationships that have weathered the test of time and my emotions and feelings, lol; they have definitely given me some wounds lol but thank God for healing. There was a need deep within my heart to keep pressing and going back and forgiving, supporting, praying, encouraging and remaining there for that person in spite of their complaining, neglect, disagreements with my way (because for some people, its my way or the highway ), and just ruffling my feathers and rubbing me the wrong way–chafing my skin.
I think of Jesus and our heavenly Father, how time after time after time we are forgiven when we are less than ‘friendly’ to them. We doubt, we give up, and cry and pout (I know I’m talking to myself and its funny now lol). But they are still there for us…why you ask? Because of love! We show others the love of God when we withstand the ability to give up on them, even when we want to and truthfully others want us to as well.
You must be a friend first (your act of sowing) so that when friends come along (your harvest) you know how to treat them! In my case I have asked God for many things: a mentor, so I have had to mentor people (very difficult); to be a wife and get married so I have been going through a preparation and purification process that has been very humbling to me, including confessing my own list of ‘I am’ statements which detail qualities I would like in my husband as well as that I become the Proverbs 31 woman, submitting to God’s authority, having integrity; to be a leader so I have been undergoing the DIFFICULT, testy task of be led, both at work, school, and in the Spirit; to be a mother so I had a mentee that was very much like my child that taught me things about life and even in helping with my nieces and god-daughter even though I am nearly a 1000 miles away, being nurturing to others, in particular to their Spirit man; to be wealthy so I had to learn to give and sow and tithe, all acts of my faith necessary for me to see the manifestation of the resources that will cause that to happen… I have had to sow these actions so that when my times come for harvesting–my marriage, my becoming a parent, my becoming a leader–I am prepared to maintain the rewards of my labor.
Your sowing will attract the harvest you desire. The beauty of being a friend or a mentor or a mother to someone else…you are sowing God’s love into someone’s life that will produce the greatest harvest ever–the salvation of their soul.
Remember this: The person who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and the person who sows generously will also reap generously. 2 Corinthians 9:6 HCSB