No is only two letters long but it is definitely one of the most power-filled words in the English vocabulary. Often survivors of sexual abuse omit this word from their day to day language. Sadly the reason for the lack of use of this word is deeply tied to their abuse, when their power was stolen. I was one of these people, making this same omission and when I had to use it, it hurt like someone was cutting me. It took me years to understand the connection until God showed me this issue in a very intimate way. My eyes were opened and I could no longer blame my poor choices on a lack of awareness. It had a face and I had a choice of whether I would continue down the same path or if I would choose a new path. Were it not for God, I would still be telling everyone yes. Now those no’s are critical part of my freedom. And they can be a part of your freedom too, if you will pay attention to the patterns.
One thing that negatively affects most victims of sexual abuse are their memories. Not just the memories of the abuse itself, because some repress and some suppress, but how their mind’s eye chooses to file all memories. In my case I didn’t know what was true or not. And the memories I did know were real and were good memories were few and far between. So I’m grateful to be healed from this and to have been reprogramming my mind to God’s truth because if I had not…I’m not sure where I would be. Go get your healing…renew your mind and see your memories clearly for the first time.